Wednesday, March 26, 2008

sister, sister

So I was the Tyra Banks Show while flipping between Sex and the City reruns and the Rockets/Timberwolves game (Hou 97 Min 86....wooooooooo) & the title of the show caught my eye:

"Sibling Birth Order Controversy"

So the whole premise behind the show was birth order and how it can affect a person's personality and characteristics. So naturally, me being the baby and only girl in my family...this was very interesting to me because i feel like i fall right into the exact "mold" of the baby of a family....so ya girl did a little research into "birth order" n this is what i found. (an article by Dr. Kevin Leman)


Only-borns
Positives: Only-borns are the mega-movers of the world. They are task-orientated; tend to be extremely well organized, highly conscientious and dependable. They are keen on facts, ideas and details and feel extremely comfortable with responsibility.

Negatives: The negative characteristics of only-borns can be tough to handle. They are often unforgiving, very demanding, hate to admit they're wrong and usually don't accept criticism well. To others, they seem very sensitive and indeed, their feelings are easily hurt.

First-borns

Positives: They are natural leaders and often high achievers. The majority of politicians, spokespersons and managing directors are first-borns. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. They often come in two flavours: compliant nurturers/caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers. Both are in control; they just use different methods. As a rule, first-borns are picky, precise people - they pay attention to detail - tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.

Negatives: They are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer. Sometimes they can be a bit 'know-it-all', and often they are poor at delegating - largely because they don't trust other people as much as they trust themselves. They also tend to be bossy, perfectionists and overly-conscientious.

Middle-Borns
Positives: The classic middle-born is very relational, tends to be a people-pleaser and usually hates confrontation. Their basic need is to keep life smooth and their motto might be 'peace at any price'. They are usually very calm, will roll with the punches and are amiable, down-to-earth and great listeners. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem and eager to make everybody happy. That makes them good mediators and negotiators.

Negatives: They tend to be less driven than first-borns, but are much more eager to be liked - or at least be happy with them. They have a difficult time setting boundaries. They can drift into becoming 'co-dependent' as they try to please everybody. They are not good at making decisions that will offend others. They also tend to blame themselves when others fail.

Last-Borns
Positives: Last-borns are the world's cheerleaders. You have strong people skills and love to entertain and talk to others. You make friends easily and immediately make others feel at home. You're an extrovert, energised by the presence of other people and you're probably not afraid to take risks.

Negatives: Last-borns tend to get bored quickly. They have a strong fear of rejection and a short attention span. When the fun stops, they've had enough and want to check out. To some extent they're self-centered. They may harbour unrealistic expectations of finding a relationship that is always fun - and of course, such relationships simply do not last.
WOW, all SOOOOOOOOOOOO true in my case....seriously to the T. So which child are you....and do you think birth order is really legit and has a serious impact on who you are.....or just a bunch of croc?

til we blog again,
bo$$lady

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

so i agree with only borns!! i am a mover and shaker but i am often unforgiving, very demanding, hate to admit i'm wrong and i don't accept criticism.

love the info...now to all go and be informed

Anonymous said...

i've read so much on birth order and it's not a bad rule book to go by. of course when you have 20 kids or twins or freaky multiples like those folk on "Jon & Kate Plus 8" (twins, then sextuplets!) the rules go out the window.

love this type of sociology stuff. keep it up!

eric michael. said...

first borns is true for me.
i'm not overly conscientious though!
good find.
peace!

c.glam said...

i'm a first born.... i agree with alot of the characteristics of a first born...i'm more of the caregiver and nuturer && my lil bro definately has a last born character.
..good topic boss lady...

Laura Vanessa said...

So.... true first born, with some baby characteristics because of age difference, but if you are really interested on this subject read "The Birth Order Connection: Finding and Keeping the Love of Your Life" by Dr. Kevin Leman it will explain how birth order affects your relationships with others and what birth orders are the best matches...also I disagree with anonymous, birth order will also affect large families, just the younger part of the families will have first born tendencies and thereon. ok...Love to see that we have brains along with all that fashion...keep repping girls :D

Quione said...

Just for the record, I hate Tyra Banks show ever since that Bow Wow/Omarion episode about sex. She seems so lame to me, but I dig the post. I am a "middle-born", and everything was on point besides the fact that I am not as driven, because my brother is a first born... I am more driven I think. And I don't do everything to please everyone, but still on point. Love the playlist too. Shout out to E Mike and Kells.


-Q

Gabrielle said...

I am an only born and I must admit that all of the characteristics fit the mold. It is so hard for me to forgive, but it is something I am working on. Anyone that knows me, knows that I am big on being organized and having things together. Also, I do take criticism hard, but I am willing to turn it in a positive and aim for better in life with the advice. Good blogging girls!